Chapter 3
Motive: To See the Big Picture
Here’s a key question every recareering candidate should ask: Am I running toward one thing or away from another? Although the distinction isn’t always easy to draw, running away incorporates a desire to break free from inordinate pain, anxiety, or stress. The trigger may be an abusive boss, the sense that your current employer is exploitive or unfair, a feeling of boredom or burnout, or simply a mismatch between individual talent and organizational needs.
Sometimes dissatisfaction with a job results from passion drift. Let’s say a nurse who excels in that role receives a promotion, then perhaps another. One day she wakes up to find she’s no longer healing the sick—her original passion—but instead managing other nurse’s schedules and drowning beneath piles of paperwork. Or a traffic engineer who always relished troubleshooting problems in the field wakes up to discover he is a desk jockey mired in project management.
Running toward something, by contrast, is all about striving to reach a defined goal—whether it’s going back to school to earn a master’s degree and become a teacher or saving the money required to open a boxing gym. You may feel that you no longer want to hoe the row you’re in but remain uncertain about which new field of endeavor you want to cultivate.
Unfortunately, if you jump too soon you may find that you’ve simply shuffled jobs or moved to a new career but feel just as unhappy as you did before. Without some genuine introspection and a commitment to change, you’re apt to follow the same patterns (or make the same fundamental choices) over and over again. The scenery may have changed, but the feeling of déjá vu lives on. The upshot? It is crucial to know what (if anything) you’re running from now and where you want to wind up next.